Assertiveness

Assertiveness is standing up for yourself. Standing up for your own rights in such a way that you do not violate another persons rights.

Assertiveness allows you to get what you want and need by fair and reasonable means.

Assertiveness is not aggressiveness.Aggressiveness leads to violating other rights.

Opposite of assertiveness is non assertiveness.

Situations that require assertiveness:
    Reprimanding subordinates.
    Reopening discussion.

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Dos and Don'ts:

If someone ignores your assertion, repeat it in the same tone as before but louder.
Refuse to be distracted or angered by side issues brought in to the discussion.
Show empathy for the other person.
Try to avoid domineering and dogmatic. Even tone is the key.
A positive self image will encourage one to be assertive.
It is more difficult to be assertive when in a stressful situation.
If some is being aggressive to you, done allow yourself to get angry.

 

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